Navigating the do’s and don’ts of fixing up your place
At the end of the day, you’re the one who has to look at it, so might as well make it something you actually enjoy—even if it means ignoring a few “rules.”
That’s really the key. Trends come and go so fast, and it’s easy to get caught up in what’s “in” right now. I’ve seen people rip out perfectly good tile or paint over solid wood just because some influencer said subway tile was out. Honestly, unless you’re planning to sell soon, chasing trends is mostly a waste of money and time.
About the three-coat rule—there’s some truth to it for durability, but it’s not gospel. Surface prep and quality paint matter more than how many coats you slap on. I’ve had cabinets last years with two solid coats and a good primer, while others chip after three because someone skipped sanding or used cheap paint. It’s like those family “rules” get passed down without anyone questioning if they still make sense.
Imperfections are inevitable, especially if you’re living in the space while working on it. Water rings, scuffs, little nicks—they all show that a place is actually lived in. I used to obsess over every scratch on my floors until I realized I was spending more time worrying than enjoying my home.
Redoing stuff is a hassle, for sure. But sometimes living with something you don’t like can be just as annoying in the long run. I’d say if something really bugs you every day, it’s worth fixing—even if it takes a weekend or two. Otherwise, save your energy for things that actually improve how you use the space.
Bottom line: do what works for you, not what some trendsetter or family member says is “right.” The only real “don’t” is making changes just because everyone else is doing it.
Couldn’t agree more on not chasing trends. I’ve watched neighbors gut original woodwork in their 1920s homes just because “everyone” was doing open concept and white everything. Ten years later, all that character is gone and the place feels like any other flip. I say keep what’s solid and has history, even if it’s not what’s trending on Instagram. If you really want to change something, make sure it’s because you’ll appreciate it for years, not just until the next fad rolls around. Those so-called “imperfections” end up being the stories you tell, anyway.
Totally get where you’re coming from. I’ve saved a ton just by working with what’s already there—sometimes a fresh coat of paint or new hardware does wonders. Trends come and go, but original details have this charm you can’t fake. I’d rather have a creaky floor with history than a cookie-cutter space that looks like everyone else’s. Plus, fixing up old stuff yourself can be pretty satisfying... and way cheaper.
- Totally agree about the charm of old details—sometimes that chipped molding or weird door knob just makes the place feel like home.
- I’ve found swapping out hardware is one of those “why didn’t I do this sooner?” fixes. But, I’ll admit, sometimes I get tempted by the idea of ripping everything out and starting fresh... then my wallet brings me back to reality.
- Curious—has anyone ever regretted painting over original woodwork? I’ve hesitated on that one.
Painting over woodwork is one of those things I’ve gone back and forth on for ages. Here’s what I did: I picked one small room (the laundry area) and painted the trim just to see how I’d feel about it. Honestly, I liked the fresh look, but sometimes I catch myself missing the old grain and warmth. If you’re on the fence, maybe try it in a less noticeable spot first? It’s way harder to go back than it is to just leave it alone for a while. My wallet definitely prefers paint over full replacement, though...